Tussling with the Male and Female Energies in your seam

Posted By Marvel Adeyemi

Are you Married or hoping to do so? here is one important feature in your spouse you should not ignore... Male versus female energy.

While courting, take some time to observe your partner's personality because that can make you happy or sad in your marriage.  If you are married already, you might need to make some adjustments to acheive that much desired harmony in your seam. Read the story below and see why.

Thelma is an outgoing, high-energy executive of a title company. She’s climbing the corporate ladder at a break neck speed, makes a colosal  income, and enjoys tennis on the weekends. She is attracted to Roney, a handsome, easy going Accountant executive with a brilliant mind and a creative flair, who also likes weekend tennis. They meet, fall in love, and get married. Thelma is happy to have Roney’s stable, laid- back attitude, which helps calm her down and gives her balance. When she flies off the handle because of stress, he keeps the boat steady.

Now they are married, however, Thelma is thinking about children and wants to work fewer hours. She knows that she’s been burning the candle at both ends and tells Roney she wants to work part time. Roney agrees (as he always does), and they begin to live on less income.

But Thelma still feels stressed about money and is beginning to resent Roney’s lack of energy and his unwillingness to work harder and climb his own corporate ladder. Roney is feeling the push, but he needs to leave time for his tennis and games hobby. He does not want work as intensely as Thelma expects. 

The babies begin to come, and Thelma goes back to work. She is bitter because she hoped that Roney would work for a promotion in his company and become the major breadwinner after they were married. But Roney is happy where he is and resents the pressure to perform. Unless they recognize and reconcile their roles, the unmet expectations and distance between them may eventually lead to divorce.

The counselling Tip:

Thelma and Roney can avoid this common pitfall in relationships, by first thoroughly understanding their own personalities; then choose the role in which they feel comfortable. 

Thelma who has a strong, powerful personality could prefer to lead subtly, allowing Roney who is willing to be a loving supporter, and neither should expect the other to change. Accepting this role can be difficult, however, in a society that reveres powerful men and equally powerful women, but tends to equate peaceful, supportive deference and passivity with weakness.

This counselling tip has applied some personality theories to bring about peace and harmony between the couple.

Do you know your temprament? Discover your self and enjoy an unforced rythm of Life.

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